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Behavior therapy is an effective treatment for attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) that can improve a child’s behavior, self-control, and self-esteem. It is most effective in young children when it is delivered by parents. Experts recommend that healthcare providers refer parents of children younger than 12 years old for training in behavior therapy. For children younger than 6 years old, parent training in behavior management should be tried before prescribing ADHD medication.
When parents become trained in behavior therapy, they learn skills and strategies to help their child with ADHD succeed at school, at home, and in relationships. Learning and practicing behavior therapy requires time and effort, but it has lasting benefits for the child and the family.
Did you know?
Parent training in behavior management is also known as parent behavior therapy, behavioral parent training, or just parent training.
What should parents look for?
If possible, families should look for a therapist who focuses on training parents. Some therapists will have training or certification in a parent training program that has been proven to work in young children with ADHD.
Therapists may also use strategies like those in proven programs1,2. The following list of questions can be used to find a therapist who uses a proven approach:
- Does this therapist
- Teach parents skills and strategies that use positive reinforcement, structure, and consistent discipline to manage their child’s behavior?
- Teach parents positive ways to interact and communicate with their child?
- Assign activities for parents to practice with their child?
- Meet regularly with the family to monitor progress and provide coaching and support?
- Re-evaluate treatment plans and remain flexible enough to adjust strategies as needed?
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What can parents expect?
Parents typically attend eight or more sessions with a therapist. Sessions may involve working with groups of parents or with one family alone. The therapist meets regularly with the parents to review their progress, provide support, and adjust strategies, as needed, to ensure improvement. Parents typically practice with their child between sessions.
Parents have the greatest influence on their young child’s behavior. Only therapy that focuses on training parents is recommended for young children with ADHD because young children are not mature enough to change their own behavior without their parents’ help. Some therapists may use play therapy or talk therapy to treat young children with ADHD. Play therapy provides a way for children to communicate their experiences and feelings through play. Talk therapy uses verbal communication between the child and a therapist to treat mental and emotional disorders. Neither of these has been proven to improve symptoms in young children with ADHD.
Learning and practicing behavior therapy requires time and effort, but it has lasting benefits for the child. Ask your healthcare provider about the benefits of parent training in behavior therapy for young children with ADHD.
What can healthcare providers do?
Healthcare providers can:
- Follow the clinical practice guideline for diagnosis and treatment of ADHD in young children
- Discuss with parents the benefits of behavior therapy and why they should consider getting training.
- Identify parent training providers in their area and refer parents of young children with ADHD for training in behavior therapy before prescribing medicine.
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What parents can expect in behavior therapy
What parents can expect in behavior therapy
Parents typically attend 8-16 sessions with a therapist and learn strategies to help their child. Sessions may involve groups or individual families.
- The therapist meets regularly with the family to monitor progress and provide support
- Between sessions, parents practice using the skills they’ve learned from the therapist
After therapy ends families continue to experience improved behavior and reduced stress.
What parents learn when trained in behavior therapy
What parents learn when trained in behavior therapy
- Positive Communication
- Positive Reinforcement
- Structure and Discipline
- Behavior therapy, given by parents teaches children to better control their own behavior, leading to improved functioning at school home and in relationships. Learning and practicing behavior therapy requires time and effort, but has lasting benefits for the child.
How Does Behavioral Therapy Help Children with ADHD?
If your child has been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), chances are, your physician has discussed or prescribed ADHD medication. You may also have learned that behavioral therapy, also called behavior modification, may be helpful. As you try to figure out the best treatment for your child, bear in mind that these two therapies are not mutually exclusive options. In fact, they often work best together in solving ADHD behavior problems.
This is clearly shown by the landmark National Institute of Mental Health‘s (NIMH) Multimodal Treatment Study of Children with ADHD. NIMH found that medication therapy alone, and medication and behavioral therapy together, resulted in the greatest improvement in children’s ADHD symptoms. In addition, the combination treatment worked best in improving ADHD-associated oppositional behaviors, as well as other areas of functioning, like interactions with parents and school.
Whether you opt for behavioral therapy alone because you prefer a non-medical approach, your child’s too young for medication, or your child suffers bad side effects from it, your child can learn social, academic and behavioral skills that will be useful in managing ADHD throughout his life. Most children don’t get diagnosed until school age, so if you suspect your child has ADHD before then, it’s nearly always helpful (and never harmful) to treat him behaviorally as though he has the condition.
How ADHD Behavioral Therapy Teaches Focus
What is behavioral therapy, and how can a parent use it on its own or as a component of combined treatment? While medication works on a neurological level to regulate the brain (kids with ADHD often have irregular brain-wave levels), behavioral therapy addresses specific problem behaviors by structuring time at home, establishing predictability and routines, and increasing positive attention.
This may seem like a tall order, especially to the parent whose child must be reminded every five minutes to stay focused on homework. When ADHD is present, the most basic strategies can be a huge challenge to implement on a day-to-day basis. This is why Sharon K. Weiss, author of From Chaos to Calm: Effective Parenting Of Challenging Children with ADHD and Other Behavioral Problems, recommends that parents narrow their focus. Tackling too much at once will only frustrate a child who has trouble simply remembering to put on both of his shoes in the morning.
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To figure out what to work on first, Weiss suggests asking yourself: What does my child need to do so that he can participate successfully in life? When you apply this litmus test, certain things will emerge as more essential than others. “The school doesn’t care if the child’s bed is made, but they do care if he shows up buck naked,” says Weiss. While many therapists and educators talk about creating a “behavior plan,” she asserts that this need not be intimidating. The plan would best include three main components: a narrow focus on essentials, clear, manageable documentation, and a commitment to note and reward improvement when it occurs.
Since tracking progress is another important part of behavior therapy, pick a single goal to work on like getting to school on time as a top priority and monitor it. If your goals are too diverse (going to bed at a certain time, being dressed impeccably in the morning by 8, doing homework immediately after school, and remembering to take the trash out), you probably won’t be able to notice and keep track of your child’s accomplishments. “You can’t tell him he needs to be downstairs at a certain time each morning and then, when he succeeds in doing that, ask him why he forgot to comb his hair,” says Weiss. When success isn’t noticed and complimented, a child with ADHD feels increased frustration and lower self-esteem. He probably won’t achieve even one of the things you’ve asked of him, let alone all of them.
ADHD Behavioral Therapy Goals That Work
Once you’ve chosen key behavioral problems (say, getting to bed on time or not interrupting someone else when they’re speaking), you then must be clear — and realistic — about your expectations and what you’re going to look for. First, ask yourself if your child has the skills to accomplish what you ask of her. For instance, if she typically needs to be told 10 times a day not to blurt out what’s on her mind when others are talking, expecting her to hold her tongue without reminders probably won’t work very well. Instead, set the goal to remind her a couple of times a day. Or pick a certain time of day to assess how she’s doing (morning, for example), then cut her some slack if she’s not performing up to par at other times.
Unlike chemically-based intervention, behavioral therapy will have an up-and-down quality to it. Just because he dressed himself and was downstairs for breakfast on time and out the door for school by 8 a.m. today, doesn’t mean your child will do it again tomorrow. Stick with what’s most important: if prior to the behavioral therapy he was succeeding only two out of five times a week and, now he’s now up to three, focus on the improvement. Don’t hassle him about the other two times.
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What Makes a Good ADHD Behavioral Therapy Plan
When you understand that your child can’t get it all right all the time, you’re ready to shape her therapy. To this end, Weiss suggests asking yourself the following three questions:
- What do I want my child to do that she isn’t doing?
- How can I relay my instructions in a visual format (so I won’t have to tell her what to do)?
- What would make it worthwhile for her to do it (i.e., an incentive that is more powerful than what’s on her radar screen at the moment she’s engaged in inappropriate behavior)?
Set the wheels in motion at a time that demands routine — morning, when it’s time to get up and dress, mealtime, or bedtime. With an older child, homework time is another option. To fulfill the visual-format component, provide a checklist of selected tasks (for a preschooler, try a picture checklist). This gives your child a reminder of what she’s supposed to do and when, and relieves you of the task of constantly delivering it. It also offers a child more control over her actions, and cuts down on parental nagging (which children with ADHD tend to tune out as background noise — especially when they’re overwhelmed).
If she achieves what’s on the list, reinforce her positive actions with praise and a reward that matters to them. It doesn’t have to be expensive and can include a special activity with you. It doesn’t have to be expensive. For a younger child, it might be stickers or an ice-cream cone; for a teenager, it could be extra phone or car privileges.
In his book, ADHD: The Great Misdiagnosis, pediatrician Julian Stuart Haber, M.D., explains a method he’s used effectively in his practice. It involves pointing out the annoying behavior, stating the expected behavior, complimenting the improved behavior, then rewarding it. Says Dr. Haber: “If a child constantly interrupted you while talking on the telephone or with other people, you would say, ‘That’s interrupting. Now let’s practice waiting,’ without becoming angry and without otherwise responding to the child. When he waits for a few seconds or minutes, you respond by saying, ‘That’s very good. Now you’re practicing waiting.’ After a few times, offer to treat him to a milkshake. When he asks why, respond, ‘Because you’ve done such a good job practicing waiting.’”
Bear in mind that many children with ADHD have trouble transferring what they’ve mastered from one setting to another. So while you may get your child to be patient when you’re on the phone, he may not be able to keep from interrupting someone on the phone at your sister’s house. That’s why your role as your child’s advocate is ongoing.
To make sure he’s applying new, positive home behaviors in school, you’ll need to clue his teacher in on what you’re practicing. If you’ve taught your son to ask “Can I join in?” before he steps into a game, pass that information along to his teacher. Another way to keep him on track is to make note cards (visual cues) to keep on his school desk. This traveling checklist might remind him to “raise your hand before you ask a question,” or “write down the homework assignment before you leave the classroom.” Ask his teacher to check things off his list as he completes them.
How to Launch Your ADHD Behavioral Therapy Plan
Parents are a lot less likely to get exasperated and give up if they see results. But when you’re in the thick of it, it’s all too easy to forget that even baby steps indicate that you’re getting somewhere. This is one of the biggest obstacles parents face in sticking with a behavioral therapy program, says Karen Miller, M.D., assistant professor of pediatrics at the Center for Children with Special Needs at Tufts-New England
Medical Center in Boston. That’s why she believes parents greatly benefit from professional coaching before they get started. Although many behavior modifications are common-sense parenting techniques, most parents need support to learn these skills and use them consistently. Parent training, whether individual or group-based, helps moms and dads stay with their goals even if they don’t see a change for several weeks — the amount of time it typically takes for progress to begin. If parents habitually toss out a plan too soon, children learn to wait it out, perceptively realizing that they can get away with not sticking to new rules for just the time it takes the folks to throw in the towel.
The involvement of a neutral person, such as a coach, also helps to alleviate tension between partners who disagree on which behaviors to tackle — and how. Dr. Miller prefers group-based parent therapy because “it has the added benefit of helping parents feel less alone and less blamed for their kids’ difficulties. They hear real-life tips from other people struggling with the same issues, learn how to make a behavior plan, and report back on how it’s working. It’s great stress management for them as well.”
Every child is different, and it’s impossible to predict what will work in any given situation. But creating a realistic behavioral plan that you can chart, getting coaching for yourself, and keeping up with your kid’s performance at home and away are all fundamentally important to behavioral therapy. The golden rule for every parent is to stop asking your child “why?” If kids with ADHD could answer that question, the condition wouldn’t exist. Instead, live in the solution, which should include thoughtful behavioral therapy. That’s when you’ll be on the road to your child’s healing — and his and your happiness.
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